Last week, our hippy dippy organic vegetarian apple orchard was visited by two meat-eating roughousing Uruguayan boys. Javier and Gabriel, aged twenty-two and twenty, respectively, had shuffled onto our farm with their packs and a tent strapped to their backs and about two hundred dollars to their names, and were hoping to find a (free) place to camp out for a while.
The boys had hitchhiked their way across the Uruguyan border and were hoping to stretch their savings across six months and most of the South American countries (and possibly Central America, and maybe even Mexico, and, heck, why stop there? U.S.A!). Needless to say, these boys were here for financial reasons and not ideological ones. I don't think they had any idea what they were getting themselves into. I'm pretty sure the truck driver who gave them a lift from their last city just knew that it was possible to camp out at this farm, and so the boys jumped out and knocked on the door and that was that. They were not crunchy little idealists who wanted to try their hands at organic farming and vegetarianism, oh no siree.
The sheer youth that these two young souls emanated was a giant gulp of fresh air for my rapidly old lady like self--what with the ache in my knees I'm starting to experience after a day of squatting in the fields, or the truck-like blow of fatigue that hits me at 10:30pm every night, it was nice to be surrounded by two young guys who seemed to be filled with so much unharnessed energy and passion and so little direction or sense of reality. Gabriel was especially fun to watch, and I'm not just saying this because he had the thickest, darkest eyelashes I'd ever seen and two full rows of brilliantly white teeth that would give even the most fastidious Western toothbrusher a run for his or her money. It wasn't his tan, soccer playing body either, although all of these things were certainly not ugly to look at (my mantra was, ''twenty years old, Ali. Twenty years old. Baby.''). What I loved was watching his and Javier's interactions in the fields and at the dinner table with the farm family.
They arrived just in time for our Andean potato harvest. The farm family had bought a bunch of special little seeds the previous season from a Bolivian potato farmer as an experiment in different potato varieties and how they would take to the Mendoza soil, and so last week was time to dig 'em up and see how they turned out. Potato harvesting is...well, it's hard work. You're out in the unrelenting mountain sun, hacking away with your hoe at heaps of dirt under rows and rows of weeds mixed with potato leaves, which often closely resemble the weeds. You must be careful not to chop too deep or too close to the potato stalk, because if you do, you risk chopping a potato in half as well, which you cannot see since it is hidden deep below the soil. After you've freed up a patch of dirt, you must get down to the level and the soil and painstakingly feel through the mountains of cool musty earth for round little balls of potato. There are also many round little balls of dirt, probably put there just to fool you, so once you find one, you must sqeeze it to ensure that is indeed a potato and not a poser. You must dig deep with your fingernails until you are sure that you've found every last one from that stalk, and then you must stand back up and start the careful hacking (if those words were ever meant to be together, it's now) process all over again. It's a lot of sit down, stand up business, lots of dirt under your fingernails, lots of lightheaded near-blackout ''oops I stood up too fast and it's HOT under this sun, I might pass out'' moments, but it's so satisfying to find these gorgeous little red and purple papas.
Anyway, the Uruguayans were the saddest addition to our work team that I could have ever imagined. In fact, I think we all got less done with them around. Every time I looked over at either one of them, they'd be perched under the shade of an apple tree taking a break, munching on an apple, or standing around with the hoe laid horizontally across their shoulders, stretching their backs a bit after an arduous two minutes of work. Every five minutes came the questions of ''when do we finish? when is lunch? when is dinner?'' When these questions weren't asked, the conversation was punctuated by some of the most interesting comments about politics (Gabriel: ''I have absolutely no problem with anything about Uruguayan politics. I'm completely content with our government and the general state of things.''), religion (again, Gabriel: ''I saw this really cool documentary in which it proved that every religion has some sort of Jesus character.'' Me: ''Uh, what about Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, Islam?''), and science (both Javier and Gabriel: ''We don't believe in evolution.'' Me: ''Oh, well that's cool, do you believe in divine creation, then?'' J&G: ''No, we don't believe in God, either. But evolution definitely didn't happen. We were never monkeys.''). I have never met anyone who was an evolution denier who didn't use religious grounds to base his or her point. So fascinating.
At dinner, their poor bodies were clearly suffering from the lack of meat. These boys were daily meat eaters, and they appeared listless after their first day of ''work.'' Amparo, in her lovely mom role, in an attempt to get some animal protein into the bodies of these poor little guys, prepared a giant casserole with a whole lot of eggs, which the boys shoveled down immediately. It was so hilarious for me to experience this clash of culture because it once again reminded me that I'm living among the minorities of the minority here in Argentina, and it's a healthy dose of reality to see that it's not exactly typical, especially down here, to go a meal or two without any meat. I think nothing of heaping piles of potatoes and squash and lentils onto my plate and going to bed with a full, satisfied belly, but these guys were hurting.
They packed up their tents after day two; enough was enough. It was sad to see them go, simply because they were so entertaining to watch and listen to, but it was also sort of a relief because we would actually be able to get some work done. And we did. And the potatoes are so lovely (and delicious).
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Sunday, February 7, 2010
The New Laurita Gordita
Lessons in cross-cultural relations and body image: the adventures of Ali La Grande in Argentina.
In 2005, I spent a semester abroad in Buenos Aires. It was marked by moments of introspection and steps towards self-knowledge, identity crises, label-shedding, and also moments in which many Argentines took the liberty of giving me one very constant label of their own. Grande. Large. Big. As a nineteen year old girl, it was difficult to hear that word associated with me, especially since for women, at least in the U.S., large usually connotes fat. I considered my self esteem to be in a generally good place, especially for a teenage girl, and due to the fact that I had spent most of my life on a swim team, my body never really had time to gain much fat, and thus if people in the U.S. commented on my body (which they rarely did, because we don't talk about those things to people's faces in my culture), they would usually use words like ''very tall,'' ''slender,'' and sometimes, ''muscular.'' I never worried about whether I was portly or not. Until Buenos Aires. People loved to comment on how grande I was. My sheer size delighted people. The cute little boutiques of Palermo Viejo, with their delicately-patterned sundresses hanging in the window, generally carried one or two sizes, the larger one typically being a dress that might fit around one of my calves. The petite ladies behind the counters would often eye me up and down and tell me straight up that they didn't think they carried anything for people as grande as I was. Grande became a large part of my identity while I was down there, and it definitely messed with my mind for a little while.
I'm back in Argentina, and luckily this time I'm a lot more comfortable with the state of my body and the relativity of the word grande. Good thing, because the grandes have been flying at me left and right, along with their sister word, gordita (fatty, chubby) and occasionally, grueso (thick). The family here on the farm is delighted with my size, especially because they had a volunteer here a couple of years ago named Laura, who apparently was my identical twin when she arrived on the farm. They love to talk about Laura because of the massive amounts of weight she lost during her five month stint here. Apparently, she requested a special diet of only vegetables and the occasional fruit: no bread, no flour at all, no sugar, no dairy [no fun] in order to cure a mysterious stomach parasite that she had self-diagnosed herself. Since Laura spent so much time here, and because she underwent such a drastic transformation, the family loves to talk about her. ''Laura was so much like you,'' they say, ''when she arrived. Gordita, white, with a body muy grueso, grande, grande, but after five months, she was tan and very thin! Cured!'' Gordita, just like you. Yep.
Now, I must be fair and state that, down here, gordita is also a term of endearment. It is often used for little babies, and sometimes has nothing to do with how much blubber someone actually has. Also, the only two permanent (non volunteer) women on this farm, Mariel and her mother, Amparo, are not exactly typical representations of the female body. They are both barely five feet tall, eat raw fruits and vegetables as their only source of sustenance, and so their frames resemble Somalian 8 year old boys much more than, say, 30 and 60 year old Argentine women, respectively. If they are the norm, then I'll take grande, please. So, on this trip, grande has become my friend. It reminds me that I am a robust, strong, tall woman who loves her fruits and veggies but who has also been known to consume a bottle of red wine, an entire loaf of country bread, and a big chunk of Vermont cheese in one sitting. Maybe my body would be ''healthier'' (and less grande) if I never ate those evil foods. But they taste so good, and to me, food always has and always will be more than just sustenance for the body--there's a strong spiritual and emotional component there, too. I think I've rambled on enough about what food is to me in my last post, though, so I'll just leave it at that for now. Plus, my grande fingers have more to type.
I've been in sort of a reflective place this past week, especially since I am nearing the end (I fly back home in about a month). I have been thinking about one of the last nights I spent at home before embarking on this voyage, outside, dusk, in my parents' back yard with my family and a few friends, sitting around our wood burning stove, roasting marshmallows and seeking refuge from the mosquitos. Suddenly, a large, hard-shelled flying insect kamakazed itself at full-speed into my head, became tangled in my hair, and stutter-buzzed around in the net it had formed as I shrieked and clawed at my head, searching my scalp for that vile creature so that I could chuck it as far away from me as possible. My whole family just watched, then laughed at me and started to tease me, ''Really, Al, you're going to go live in the countryside of various South American nations, and this is your reaction to a New England beetle?'' I was flustered and frustrated because I knew they had a point. I had never been much of a lover of insects, and that was a theme I had chosen not to think about until that moment. But I also knew that part of the reason I was doing this trip was to be more at peace with nature--I knew that in the tropics of Colombia, which was my first stop, I'd have no choice not to adapt, fast.
I used to flinch and twitch when the sound of buzzing insect wings flew by my ear. I'd get this tic, snap my head to the side, earside down, with the shoulder below it rising immediately to reach it, kind of like a one-sided shoulder shrug with an added head-tilt. It was an immediate, automatic reaction, usually accompanied by swatting at whatever caused the sound, or, if it was a bee or wasp, a quick freeze and sucking in of breath until it flew by me. I secretly hated that part of me; I didn't want to be that person who wanted to save planet earth but was okay with the extermination of any biting or stinging or crawly insects.
And so recently, I came to the realization that I no longer do that flinch and twitch. I don't know when the change happened, but I was squatting along a line of pumpkins and zucchini, severing them from their vines with a knife, when I realized that there was a general hum of flies and other flying friends around my head, and I hadn't even heard them until I took a moment to stop and actively listen to the sounds around me. I don't even hear them anymore. And bees? Not a problem. If they're inside the flower of a plant I'm also working with, I can work around them without the rapid increase in heart palpitation that used to accompany that situation.
Okay, so wasps still freak me out. They are larger than life down here, and they are mean. One attacked my friend Aurelia last week while she was minding her own business. If I see a large nest hanging from an apple tree, I run in the opposite direction. And I still smack mosquitos and paquitas, which are other nasty (but tiny) little blood-sucking beasts that bury their entire heads into your skin. But they're slow and stupid, and you can almost always slap them and kill them, which yields a satisfying blood smatter as well. Well, it's your own blood, but still, the image is carnal and statisfying. A proud fist-pump or war cry almost always follows.
In 2005, I spent a semester abroad in Buenos Aires. It was marked by moments of introspection and steps towards self-knowledge, identity crises, label-shedding, and also moments in which many Argentines took the liberty of giving me one very constant label of their own. Grande. Large. Big. As a nineteen year old girl, it was difficult to hear that word associated with me, especially since for women, at least in the U.S., large usually connotes fat. I considered my self esteem to be in a generally good place, especially for a teenage girl, and due to the fact that I had spent most of my life on a swim team, my body never really had time to gain much fat, and thus if people in the U.S. commented on my body (which they rarely did, because we don't talk about those things to people's faces in my culture), they would usually use words like ''very tall,'' ''slender,'' and sometimes, ''muscular.'' I never worried about whether I was portly or not. Until Buenos Aires. People loved to comment on how grande I was. My sheer size delighted people. The cute little boutiques of Palermo Viejo, with their delicately-patterned sundresses hanging in the window, generally carried one or two sizes, the larger one typically being a dress that might fit around one of my calves. The petite ladies behind the counters would often eye me up and down and tell me straight up that they didn't think they carried anything for people as grande as I was. Grande became a large part of my identity while I was down there, and it definitely messed with my mind for a little while.
I'm back in Argentina, and luckily this time I'm a lot more comfortable with the state of my body and the relativity of the word grande. Good thing, because the grandes have been flying at me left and right, along with their sister word, gordita (fatty, chubby) and occasionally, grueso (thick). The family here on the farm is delighted with my size, especially because they had a volunteer here a couple of years ago named Laura, who apparently was my identical twin when she arrived on the farm. They love to talk about Laura because of the massive amounts of weight she lost during her five month stint here. Apparently, she requested a special diet of only vegetables and the occasional fruit: no bread, no flour at all, no sugar, no dairy [no fun] in order to cure a mysterious stomach parasite that she had self-diagnosed herself. Since Laura spent so much time here, and because she underwent such a drastic transformation, the family loves to talk about her. ''Laura was so much like you,'' they say, ''when she arrived. Gordita, white, with a body muy grueso, grande, grande, but after five months, she was tan and very thin! Cured!'' Gordita, just like you. Yep.
Now, I must be fair and state that, down here, gordita is also a term of endearment. It is often used for little babies, and sometimes has nothing to do with how much blubber someone actually has. Also, the only two permanent (non volunteer) women on this farm, Mariel and her mother, Amparo, are not exactly typical representations of the female body. They are both barely five feet tall, eat raw fruits and vegetables as their only source of sustenance, and so their frames resemble Somalian 8 year old boys much more than, say, 30 and 60 year old Argentine women, respectively. If they are the norm, then I'll take grande, please. So, on this trip, grande has become my friend. It reminds me that I am a robust, strong, tall woman who loves her fruits and veggies but who has also been known to consume a bottle of red wine, an entire loaf of country bread, and a big chunk of Vermont cheese in one sitting. Maybe my body would be ''healthier'' (and less grande) if I never ate those evil foods. But they taste so good, and to me, food always has and always will be more than just sustenance for the body--there's a strong spiritual and emotional component there, too. I think I've rambled on enough about what food is to me in my last post, though, so I'll just leave it at that for now. Plus, my grande fingers have more to type.
I've been in sort of a reflective place this past week, especially since I am nearing the end (I fly back home in about a month). I have been thinking about one of the last nights I spent at home before embarking on this voyage, outside, dusk, in my parents' back yard with my family and a few friends, sitting around our wood burning stove, roasting marshmallows and seeking refuge from the mosquitos. Suddenly, a large, hard-shelled flying insect kamakazed itself at full-speed into my head, became tangled in my hair, and stutter-buzzed around in the net it had formed as I shrieked and clawed at my head, searching my scalp for that vile creature so that I could chuck it as far away from me as possible. My whole family just watched, then laughed at me and started to tease me, ''Really, Al, you're going to go live in the countryside of various South American nations, and this is your reaction to a New England beetle?'' I was flustered and frustrated because I knew they had a point. I had never been much of a lover of insects, and that was a theme I had chosen not to think about until that moment. But I also knew that part of the reason I was doing this trip was to be more at peace with nature--I knew that in the tropics of Colombia, which was my first stop, I'd have no choice not to adapt, fast.
I used to flinch and twitch when the sound of buzzing insect wings flew by my ear. I'd get this tic, snap my head to the side, earside down, with the shoulder below it rising immediately to reach it, kind of like a one-sided shoulder shrug with an added head-tilt. It was an immediate, automatic reaction, usually accompanied by swatting at whatever caused the sound, or, if it was a bee or wasp, a quick freeze and sucking in of breath until it flew by me. I secretly hated that part of me; I didn't want to be that person who wanted to save planet earth but was okay with the extermination of any biting or stinging or crawly insects.
And so recently, I came to the realization that I no longer do that flinch and twitch. I don't know when the change happened, but I was squatting along a line of pumpkins and zucchini, severing them from their vines with a knife, when I realized that there was a general hum of flies and other flying friends around my head, and I hadn't even heard them until I took a moment to stop and actively listen to the sounds around me. I don't even hear them anymore. And bees? Not a problem. If they're inside the flower of a plant I'm also working with, I can work around them without the rapid increase in heart palpitation that used to accompany that situation.
Okay, so wasps still freak me out. They are larger than life down here, and they are mean. One attacked my friend Aurelia last week while she was minding her own business. If I see a large nest hanging from an apple tree, I run in the opposite direction. And I still smack mosquitos and paquitas, which are other nasty (but tiny) little blood-sucking beasts that bury their entire heads into your skin. But they're slow and stupid, and you can almost always slap them and kill them, which yields a satisfying blood smatter as well. Well, it's your own blood, but still, the image is carnal and statisfying. A proud fist-pump or war cry almost always follows.
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
You Say Potato, I Say, Eleven Year Old?
We harvested the first of the potatoes this week, and they are the most potatoey potatoes I've ever eaten. They put my pre-farming potato experiences to shame. They are delicate and buttery-sweet and have a thin skin that, when thrown in the oven, gives in when you press against it with your fork. I have been enjoying this added element in our home-cooked meals lately due to the dynamic change in flavor and texture that the potato brings, but I'm also loving that the grandchildren who visit the farm are so tuned-in to actually tasting their food and participating in all steps from planting to harvesting that they make very un-childlike comments about them. Take last night for instance when Alondra, age eleven, stuck her fork into one of them and slowly chewed it with eyes of contemplation. She swallowed, flattened another one on her plate with her fork and smeared it slightly to separate the skin from the white fluffiness in the middle, looked up at her uncle, and said,
''Uncle, look at the texture of this potato! It's beautiful!''
Only on a hippy-dippy, organic farm of food revolutionaries would a child be raised to not only eat potatoes without exorbitant amounts of cheese or salt, but also understand what a good potato's texture should be and to comment on it. I was floored. Not sure why I was so surprised, really; this child eats heaping portions of vegetables like green beans, squash, tomatoes, and chard at every meal, just as she has been since she had her first teeth, I would imagine. It's so interesting to be around children that know exactly where their food came from [their garden, or grandma's garden], what went into growing it, and just what the product should look like before it's ready to be yanked from it's vine or tree or home of dirt. It reminded me of my first week on the farm when Mariel, Alondra's aunt and general coordinator of day-to-day orchard and garden activities, sent me out to the garden to get some lettuce for dinner. She sent me with Alondra, who knew where the lettuce was. The two of us grabbed a knife and walked out to one of the gardens, big girl following behind little girl, stepping gingerly around cabbage and broccoli and pepper plants and onions until we got to the line of lettuce: bright green bundles of leaves which stood out against their dark soil backdrop, especially because we were in the last hours of daylight when certain greens of the plants are illuminated in that mystical irridescent glow of dusk.
I followed closely behind her as she stepped around each head of lettuce, pointing at each one with her knife as she passed by it, saying, ''This one is too young to pick, this one's not ready yet either, too young, too young, too young, AH! That one is perfect!'' She squatted down, sawed off its head, and did the same to the next three or four heads as well. Honestly, the difference in size between the premie lettuce and the ready lettuce was so miniscule that I certainly wouldn't have noticed, or at least it would have taken me much longer as I pained over each one, teetering between making a decision, ''Is it ready? Is it not? Ready? Not? Readynotreadynotready????'' And Alondra just knew, immediately, as if she were deciding between two things so obviously different as carrots and tomatoes. I love this fine-tuned consciousness that comes with spending time a farm like this one. So cool. It makes me happy to know that these children are part of the next generation. Oh god, I sound like a grandmother. When I was a young lass...
So, I think I've established that this farm is more than a little unique. They are certainly not your typical Argentine family, what with their rejection of meat in a country that worships the Sunday family barbeque, with their non-consumption of alcohol and thus wine in a region that produces the bulk of the nation's supply, and of course with their general lack of attention to generally accepted Western-driven aesthetics (they [we] walk around in dirty t-shirts and blackened bare feet, both Amparo and her husband, Enrique, are missing some teeth, etc.). They grow cabbage and onions and carrots in an area surrounded by giant farms that grow nothing but grapes and apples. They would be kind of off-beat in most of the U.S. [welcomed with open arms in my former state, Vermont]. In Argentina, forget about it. So, you can imagine the delightful clashing of cultures that arose last week when Enrique's family came to visit.
They arrived in waves, first two, then three more, then full carloads as the week continued, each with meat, beer, wine, other typically farm-prohibited fixings. They set up their tents across the river, still on the farm property, and spent their week of summer vacation camping out at Enrique's house. My favorite visiting family member was Tio Negro, a short, slightly balding beer-bellied gentlemen in his sixties, who always seemed to be singing some sort of romantic balad as he strolled through the grounds of the farm. Cousins, uncles, aunts, grandchildren wandered through our kitchen at all hours of the day and night to extract their perishables from our fridge, and it was odd to see nearly forgotten goods like t-bone steaks resting next to the leftover quinoa soup. There was something so wonderfully comforting about his family, so delightfully familiar, just a bunch of good people sitting back on their lawn chairs by the river, sipping on beer and blasting the radio and cooking up meat on the grill. I have definitely met them before in some form.
You'd think that two sides of the family with such drastically different lifestyles (or at least eating habits) wouldn't get along. Not so. Everyone seemed to be mutually respectful of the other family's beliefs and ways of life, and it became even more apparent when the visitors invited us all (even the volunteers) across the river on Sunday for a big barbeque. Tio Negro had made a giant six-foot long pizza in the brick oven, along with some delicious grilled chicken. Our side of the river brought salad and grilled veggies. There must have been at least thirty people there in the end, all sitting at one long rectangular picnic table (which was actually about three or four tables lined up), and it was lovely to see everyone come together over a meal, especially when it is food that is the substance that would theoretically divide them. Okay, so the majority of the farm family didn't touch the meat, or the pizza (I made up for what they left behind, don't worry). And the visiting members barely ate any of the salad (fair; although it was made up of tomatoes and lettuce and onions, it also included a variety of delicate yet bitter herbs and greens which most of Argentina would call WEEDS). Luckily, Mariel knew her family well enough to make a special salad for them which included all of the typical stuff minus the weirdo bitter green things. And I did catch a couple of the cousins carefully testing the weirdo hippy salad with their front teeth, then inserting the rest of it into their mouths, and some of them claimed to love the flavor and helped themselves to more.
And this is why I love food. Yes, if people are unflexible and unyielding, preachy and proselytizing, it can be a vice that drives people apart. But in most cases, it's the glue that holds us together, as individual specimens and as a culture. It is a way to share thoughts, explore new flavors, throw a little bit of yourself into a dish that will nourish others (I did not mean for that last bit to be taken literally--please don't throw a little bit of you into a dish if you cook for me). Food is a way to tell stories of the past, it's the medium we use to preserve that of our ancestors, and a space for us all to be creative, to see what happens if we add a splash more of this or a handful less of that. We need food to survive, so it might as well taste good and be enjoyed with people who make us glad we're alive.
''Uncle, look at the texture of this potato! It's beautiful!''
Only on a hippy-dippy, organic farm of food revolutionaries would a child be raised to not only eat potatoes without exorbitant amounts of cheese or salt, but also understand what a good potato's texture should be and to comment on it. I was floored. Not sure why I was so surprised, really; this child eats heaping portions of vegetables like green beans, squash, tomatoes, and chard at every meal, just as she has been since she had her first teeth, I would imagine. It's so interesting to be around children that know exactly where their food came from [their garden, or grandma's garden], what went into growing it, and just what the product should look like before it's ready to be yanked from it's vine or tree or home of dirt. It reminded me of my first week on the farm when Mariel, Alondra's aunt and general coordinator of day-to-day orchard and garden activities, sent me out to the garden to get some lettuce for dinner. She sent me with Alondra, who knew where the lettuce was. The two of us grabbed a knife and walked out to one of the gardens, big girl following behind little girl, stepping gingerly around cabbage and broccoli and pepper plants and onions until we got to the line of lettuce: bright green bundles of leaves which stood out against their dark soil backdrop, especially because we were in the last hours of daylight when certain greens of the plants are illuminated in that mystical irridescent glow of dusk.
I followed closely behind her as she stepped around each head of lettuce, pointing at each one with her knife as she passed by it, saying, ''This one is too young to pick, this one's not ready yet either, too young, too young, too young, AH! That one is perfect!'' She squatted down, sawed off its head, and did the same to the next three or four heads as well. Honestly, the difference in size between the premie lettuce and the ready lettuce was so miniscule that I certainly wouldn't have noticed, or at least it would have taken me much longer as I pained over each one, teetering between making a decision, ''Is it ready? Is it not? Ready? Not? Readynotreadynotready????'' And Alondra just knew, immediately, as if she were deciding between two things so obviously different as carrots and tomatoes. I love this fine-tuned consciousness that comes with spending time a farm like this one. So cool. It makes me happy to know that these children are part of the next generation. Oh god, I sound like a grandmother. When I was a young lass...
So, I think I've established that this farm is more than a little unique. They are certainly not your typical Argentine family, what with their rejection of meat in a country that worships the Sunday family barbeque, with their non-consumption of alcohol and thus wine in a region that produces the bulk of the nation's supply, and of course with their general lack of attention to generally accepted Western-driven aesthetics (they [we] walk around in dirty t-shirts and blackened bare feet, both Amparo and her husband, Enrique, are missing some teeth, etc.). They grow cabbage and onions and carrots in an area surrounded by giant farms that grow nothing but grapes and apples. They would be kind of off-beat in most of the U.S. [welcomed with open arms in my former state, Vermont]. In Argentina, forget about it. So, you can imagine the delightful clashing of cultures that arose last week when Enrique's family came to visit.
They arrived in waves, first two, then three more, then full carloads as the week continued, each with meat, beer, wine, other typically farm-prohibited fixings. They set up their tents across the river, still on the farm property, and spent their week of summer vacation camping out at Enrique's house. My favorite visiting family member was Tio Negro, a short, slightly balding beer-bellied gentlemen in his sixties, who always seemed to be singing some sort of romantic balad as he strolled through the grounds of the farm. Cousins, uncles, aunts, grandchildren wandered through our kitchen at all hours of the day and night to extract their perishables from our fridge, and it was odd to see nearly forgotten goods like t-bone steaks resting next to the leftover quinoa soup. There was something so wonderfully comforting about his family, so delightfully familiar, just a bunch of good people sitting back on their lawn chairs by the river, sipping on beer and blasting the radio and cooking up meat on the grill. I have definitely met them before in some form.
You'd think that two sides of the family with such drastically different lifestyles (or at least eating habits) wouldn't get along. Not so. Everyone seemed to be mutually respectful of the other family's beliefs and ways of life, and it became even more apparent when the visitors invited us all (even the volunteers) across the river on Sunday for a big barbeque. Tio Negro had made a giant six-foot long pizza in the brick oven, along with some delicious grilled chicken. Our side of the river brought salad and grilled veggies. There must have been at least thirty people there in the end, all sitting at one long rectangular picnic table (which was actually about three or four tables lined up), and it was lovely to see everyone come together over a meal, especially when it is food that is the substance that would theoretically divide them. Okay, so the majority of the farm family didn't touch the meat, or the pizza (I made up for what they left behind, don't worry). And the visiting members barely ate any of the salad (fair; although it was made up of tomatoes and lettuce and onions, it also included a variety of delicate yet bitter herbs and greens which most of Argentina would call WEEDS). Luckily, Mariel knew her family well enough to make a special salad for them which included all of the typical stuff minus the weirdo bitter green things. And I did catch a couple of the cousins carefully testing the weirdo hippy salad with their front teeth, then inserting the rest of it into their mouths, and some of them claimed to love the flavor and helped themselves to more.
And this is why I love food. Yes, if people are unflexible and unyielding, preachy and proselytizing, it can be a vice that drives people apart. But in most cases, it's the glue that holds us together, as individual specimens and as a culture. It is a way to share thoughts, explore new flavors, throw a little bit of yourself into a dish that will nourish others (I did not mean for that last bit to be taken literally--please don't throw a little bit of you into a dish if you cook for me). Food is a way to tell stories of the past, it's the medium we use to preserve that of our ancestors, and a space for us all to be creative, to see what happens if we add a splash more of this or a handful less of that. We need food to survive, so it might as well taste good and be enjoyed with people who make us glad we're alive.
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